Your weekly poem: Harlem

Your weekly poem: Harlem

🌿 A poem a day keeps the blues away… 

“Harlem”—or What happens to a dream deferred? 🌿

🌻 What happens to a dream deferred?

Does it dry up
Like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore—
And then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat
Or crust and sugar over—
Like a syrupy sweet?

Maybe it just sags
Like a heavy load.

Or does it explode? 🌻

— Langston Hughes (1901-1967)

🪴 Langston Hughes was one of the most powerful voices of the Harlem Renaissance—a poet, a civil rights writer, and a master of saying everything that needs to be said in as few words as possible. This poem is a masterclass in that.

📌 As we explore it together, I invite you to hold Hughes’ question on a personal level:

What happens to YOUR dream deferred?

🪴Hughes opens with a simple question: what happens to a dream that is postponed?

He then offers a series of images, each one a possible fate for the delayed pursuit of one’s hopes and dreams.

🌱 Does it dry up like a raisin in the sun?—something once full of juice and life, shrivelled by neglect and heat.

And yet, even a raisin, if not discarded or considered “dead”, can still be consumed. And when we do, its sweetness is ten times stronger than a grape’s… the sweetness of a promise finally fulfilled—even if at an advanced age.

🌱 Or fester like a sore—and then run?—in this scenario, the dream becomes infected, festering until it finally breaks open.

I wonder if this is what happens when we start resenting ourselves—and maybe even our loved ones—for never having tried.

And yet, even here, there is a sense of relief in that image. The intense pain relief when the sore finally runs, because that’s when healing can finally begin. It might leave a scar, sure, but also the promise of a new beginning.

🌱 Does it stink like rotten meat?—decay. Something that was once nourishing, now putrid.

I initially imagined the sad sight of what once was a juicy steak—which once was a living cow—butchered to fill a man’s hunger only to be left out for so long—untouched, unconsumed, sacrificed for nothing.

And then I wondered: what if a stinking dream is like a crying baby—trying to get our attention in the only way it can: by stinking up the place? Demanding attention.

🌱 Or crust and sugar over—like a syrupy sweet?— a dream that hardens and crusts over, and while it may still look sweet on the outside, it’s probably now too hard to consume or enjoy.

Maybe it gets relegated to a shelf instead—like an artefact in a museum, too precious to throw away, yet too old for consumption. Neither dead nor alive. Waiting…

🌱 Maybe it just sags like a heavy load.—the accumulated weight of carrying something unrealised, day after day.

Given my gender and age, the first image that came to mind was that of an old woman’s saggy breasts—once perky and firm, now thin and shriveled, pulling further and further down towards gravity, day after day.

The memory of what once was, and could have still been, but no longer is.

🌱 Or does it explode?—what a genius way to end this poem. After all the domestic images of drying and sagging and festering, we are reminded that a deferred dream can also be a ticking Bomb.

Its unrealized energy and potential become, at some point, too much to contain and the only way left is an outward forceful expression.

Sometimes you can only defer a dream for so long before something gives.

 

A seed of hope

🪴 Given its title “Harlem”, it’s safe to assume Hughes was referring to the African American dreams of equality, dignity, and freedom that had been systematically deferred by racism, segregation, and broken promises.

And yet, as with any great poem, it works equally well on a personal level.

Any one of us who has ever postponed something important—a career change, a creative ambition, a relationship—will smell the stink and feel the heavy load.

But the poem also holds seeds of hope.
For a dream deferred is neither dead nor forgotten.

In every one of Hughes’ images, the dream is simply changing form, trying to grab our attention, hoping to be noticed—so that we can finally pick it up and decide: do we toss it away for good, or do we breathe life into it?

📌 What will you be choosing today?

🦋 Happy weekend everyone! 🦋

With love,
Dina 🫶🏽

PS: All em dashes are my own 😉.

PPS: Hi, I’m Dina—an executive and transition coach. And if you’re wondering whether how you are living your life today is how you want to spend the next ten to fifteen years of your career, let’s chat. No need to defer your dreams any further. I’m only one DM away. 🤗

        Resources:

        • This week’s song is I DREAM A WORLD. It’s a famous choral song based on Hughes’ powerful 1941 poem of the same name. Lyrics: 

          I dream a world where man
          No other man will scorn,
          Where love will bless the earth
          And peace its paths adorn
          I dream a world where all
          Will know sweet freedom’s way,
          Where greed no longer saps the soul
          Nor avarice blights our day.
          A world I dream where black or white,
          Whatever race you be,
          Will share the bounties of the earth
          And every man is free,
          Where wretchedness will hang its head
          And joy, like a pearl,
          Attends the needs of all mankind-
          Of such I dream, my world!

        Your weekly poem: SEA JOY

        Your weekly poem: SEA JOY

        🌿 A poem a day keeps the blues away… 

        —or holding on to your wishes while job searching 🌿

         

        🌻 When I go down by the sandy shore
        I can think of nothing I want more
        Than to live by the booming blue sea
        As the seagulls flutter round about me

        I can run about – when the tide is out
        With the wind and the sand and the sea all about
        And the seagulls are swirling and diving for fish
        Oh – to live by the sea is my only wish. 🌻

        — Jacqueline Bouvier (Kennedy), 1939

         

        🪴 This poem was written by former American First Lady, Jackie Kennedy, at the age of ten. And, like every poem, it can be read in many different ways.

        A possible interpretation for job seekers

        Three close members of my family have been looking for a job for over a year now, and it’s been a psychological and financial struggle. So, if you’re in a similar situation, I’d like to offer you one possible interpretation of that poem—not from a place of “easy advice” but from a place of solidarity. And I’d like to focus on two specific lines in the poem:

        “I can think of nothing I want more”
        “Oh – to live by the sea is my only wish.”

        I love these two lines because they invite us to dream a little and get in touch with what lies within the depth of our soul… So, 

        📌 as you go about your job search, here are two questions worth considering:

        ⭐️ What is it that you want nothing more of—your “only wish”, if you could choose?

        ⭐️ And what could be ways to pursue it—even now, in the midst of the grind?

        🪴 Now, depending on how long you’ve been looking for a job, and how pressing your financial situation is, the spontaneous answer to the first question might be: ANY job that helps pay the bills. And I get it! But even then, you still need to have a target in mind. And that target will depend on your experience, your strengths, and the story you can tell through your CV, motivation letter, and network for “why you” in “this role”. And the more over- (or under-) qualified you are, the more important that story…

        The parallel track

        🪴 In parallel, I urge you to keep your ultimate wish in sight and pursue it.

        “Oh – to live by the sea is my only wish.”

        Career transitions are hard. They can be chaotic and are riddled with uncertainty and rejections. AND

        They also hold the seed of change: a new direction, a new opportunity, new connections, new learnings. In short, they hold potential!

        So, while you try to keep the ship afloat, you also want to keep your personal “sea joy” as your North Star.

        📌 Which is why, I encourage you to keep coming back to those two questions:

        ⭐️ What is your ultimate “sea joy”? Be it a role, an industry, a change of scenery, an independent project…

        ⭐️ And how can you pursue that “sea joy” hope, even as you navigate the day-to-day grind of the job application mill?

        🪴 Good luck with your job search or career transition! If you are a job seeker in Switzerland and need support, feel free to reach out. I’m only a message away—and I share what I know openly and for free in every first meeting.

        🦋 Happy Weekend everyone! 🦋

        With love,
        Dina 🫶🏽

         

        Poem

        Image of the original manuscript and illustration by Jackie, source: jfklibrary.org

              Resources:

              • This week’s song is LIFE by Des’ree:

              Your weekly poem: LIFE DOESN’T FRIGHTEN ME

              Your weekly poem: LIFE DOESN’T FRIGHTEN ME

              🌿 Your weekly poem: Life doesn’t frighten me—or how to slay your dragons

              With so many people on the market looking for a job or to reinvent their career, I’ve decided to start relating my weekly poems to the topic of career transitions; hoping that some of you can find inspiration and solace in them as you journey on.

              🌿 A poem a day keeps the blues away…

              LIFE DOESN’T FRIGHTEN ME by Maya Angelou 🌿

              🌻 Life Doesn’t Frighten Me
              Shadows on the wall
              Noises down the hall
              Life doesn’t frighten me at all

              Bad dogs barking loud
              Big ghosts in a cloud
              Life doesn’t frighten me at all

              Mean old Mother Goose
              Lions on the loose
              They don’t frighten me at all

              Dragons breathing flame
              On my counterpane
              That doesn’t frighten me at all.

              I go boo
              Make them shoo
              I make fun
              Way they run
              I won’t cry
              So they fly
              I just smile
              They go wild

              Life doesn’t frighten me at all.

              Tough guys fight
              All alone at night
              Life doesn’t frighten me at all.

              Panthers in the park
              Strangers in the dark
              No, they don’t frighten me at all.

              That new classroom where
              Boys all pull my hair
              (Kissy little girls
              With their hair in curls)
              They don’t frighten me at all.

              Don’t show me frogs and snakes
              And listen for my scream,
              If I’m afraid at all
              It’s only in my dreams.

              I’ve got a magic charm
              That I keep up my sleeve
              I can walk the ocean floor
              And never have to breathe.

              Life doesn’t frighten me at all
              Not at all
              Not at all.

              Life doesn’t frighten me at all. 🌻

              — Maya Angelou, 1993

              🪴 Angelou takes the voice of a child, inviting a light-hearted tone to a serious subject: fear.

              There are two ways to read this poem:

              1) As a children’s poem, meant to give heart to our children and help them deal with their imaginary and not-so-imaginary fears. In fact, the poem was published as a picture book, illustrated by Jean-Michel Basquiat (link in comments 👇🏽). Although, to be honest, I find Basquiat’s illustrations so unsettling, I’m not sure the book was truly ever meant for children…

              2) As a poem for all ages, whereby each stanza is a metaphor for us to explore.

              Today, I’d like to offer you one possible way to explore this poem from the perspective of someone in the midst of a job search or career transition, hoping it can offer you solace, and maybe even some courage to journey on.

              Angelou starts by listing some of the things she (or her inner child) fears:

              🌱 Shadows on the wall. Big ghosts in a cloud.

              I interpret these as the shadows and ghosts of our own heart:

              • Our own self-doubts.
              • The parts of ourselves we’ve rejected or hidden, for fear we may no longer be accepted or loved.
              • Those hopes and dreams we used to carry on our sleeves and that are now relegated to a back pocket at best, if not written on the wall of a deep, dark well even we have forgotten how to access.
              🌱 Noises down the hall. Bad dogs barking loud.

              The noises barking loud in our heads. Those incessant what-ifs that trickle down our mind, one drop at a time, like a broken tap that won’t shut off…

              • What if I never find another job?
              • What if people can’t see what I’m capable of beyond what I’m already known for?
              • What if every rejection letter is a third-party confirmation of my lack of worth?
              • What if my skills are obsolete?
              • What if my partner no longer wants to be with me?
              • What if my kids no longer respect me being jobless for so long?

              And yet, even then, Angelou reassures us: Life doesn’t frighten me at all.

              No explanation yet as to why, she keeps going…

              🌱 Mean old Mother Goose. Lions on the loose. Dragons breathing flame. Panthers in the park. Strangers in the dark. Boys all pull my hair. Show me frogs and snakes and listen for my scream.

              Each one of those could represent a particular challenge when searching for a new job or seeking a new career:

              • The job search that feels like looking for a needle in a haystack, only to have LinkedIn point out 100+ people have applied two days after publication.
              • The application processes that took hours to fill out—only to be ghosted at the end.
              • The time and energy spent preparing for an interview, a business case, a case study—only to be told the position has been cancelled, a hiring freeze is now in effect, or an internal candidate has “miraculously” been found.
              • The unbearable silence after you thought you really clicked with that manager and team.
              • The standard rejection letter that might as well have read “not interested for not good enough”.
              • The flowery rhetoric of “we hire for potential” and “transferrable skills”—only to find out they hired someone who’s been doing the job for the past 12 years.
              • The predators who publish fake jobs just to harvest your data.
              • The so-called “career experts” who probably never recruited or worked in HR a day in their life, but are more than happy to share false information—feeding on your fears to fill their pockets.
              • And… and… and…

              So, understandably, you might start losing hope, taking rejections personally, doubting yourself, your skills, your worth. And yet, Angelou continues to claim:

              Life doesn’t frighten me at all.

               She still does not yet reveal why she isn’t frightened, but she does reveal some of her strategies for handling fear:

              🌱 I go boo
              Make them shoo
              I make fun
              Way they run
              I won’t cry
              So they fly
              I just smile
              They go wild

              She calls their bluff.
              She uses humour.
              She doesn’t let them get to her.
              She brushes things off.

              Each one of these strategies is also available to you. Only you hold the power of your mind and your imagination.

              And then she finally reveals to us WHY she isn’t afraid:

              🌱 I’ve got a magic charm
              That I keep up my sleeve
              I can walk the ocean floor
              And never have to breathe.

              Now, you might say: “But I have no magic charm”. You do!

              You are not your role, and your self-worth is not dependent on your job title or the company you worked for.

              No one can strip you of your skills, knowledge, experience, talents, and know-how.
              No one can strip you of your personality, your quirks, and your unique way of being in the world.
              No one can strip you of your imagination, your ability to learn, and to bounce back.

              Your magic charm is your inner strength and your personal source of courage.

              The spirit is indomitable.

              Your spirit is indomitable.

              📌 So, here’s a question for you: what, or who, is your source of courage?

              Maybe it’s a personal or spiritual belief.
              Maybe it’s religion.
              Maybe it’s a community you belong to.
              Maybe it’s a person or persons who care about you deeply.

              Whatever your source of courage, now is the time to reach out!

              The stories we tell ourselves matter. They can build us up, or pull us down. And when they pull down, you can either find the strength within you to dust yourself off and get up again. Or you ask for help.

              Foolishness is refusing to ask for help out of pride, or a false sense of shame or guilt.

              Courage is saying:

              I am willing to risk ridicule and failure so that I may experience this day with newness and freshness — Zinker, J., Creative Process in Gestalt Therapy, 1978, p. 3.

              As for that ocean—

              Maybe Angelou did not need to breathe because she mastered the skill of apnea diving. Or maybe she had a tank full of oxygen ready to use. Whatever the reason, she is steadfast and confident that “she can walk that ocean floor”, and so can you!

              The ocean might be deep, dark, and full of unknowns. But you’ve survived it before, and you can trust that you will again. And even if this is your first time diving in deep seas, know that many have survived it before you.

              You can face the ocean with a defeatist mind: blaming others, victimising yourself, finding fault in every path or possibility, telling yourself it’s never been done before, or that you’ve been told it’s impossible. Or you can keep trying, experimenting, collecting data, and casting nets.

              Manage what you can control and let go of what you can’t, trusting that you are part of a much wider field, where other forces are at play.

              You are not alone. And as long as you hold on to the belief that things are in motion beyond what you can see, and that every net you cast holds possibility—the timing of what comes to fruition is no longer yours to control alone—and there is great solace in that.

              Man is no island. Mankind is a highly sophisticated root system—a Soul Wide Web of sorts: interconnected, interdependent, woven like a tapestry.

              🪴 Good luck with your job search or career transition! And if you want to cast a net my way, feel free to do so. I’m happy to support where I can.

              🦋 Happy Weekend everyone! 🦋

              With love,
              Dina 🫶🏽

              Resources:

              • Check out Angelou’s poem as a picture book on Amazon.
              • This week’s song is NOT AFRIAD, cover by Red Village (EXPLICIT version):