On Transitions & Meaning
These resources were a great inspiration for me when I was at my lowest point, and they continue to inspire me.
Books on Transitions & Change
- Working Identity: Unconventional Strategies for Reinventing Your Career by Herminia Ibarra
- The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse by Charlie Mackesy
- Meine Trauer wird dich finden: Ein neuer Ansatz in der Trauerarbeit by Roland Kachler
- Von Gipfeln und Tälern des Lebens by Anselm Grün
Books on Meaning & Purpose
- Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
- Le Petit Prince / The Little Prince by Antione de Saint-Exupéry
When I started my journey as a parent, it was very important for me to give space for my child’s personality and desires. I knew I did not want to reward or punish. I knew I did not want to use things like the cry-it-out method. I wanted to find a gentle way of parenting, that lovingly sets limits while respecting the individuality and integrity of my child’s personality.
These resources helped me most on my parenting journey.
Websites & Videos
- HandInHand, Parenting by Connection: If you only check one blog, that’s the one! A must for every parent who wants effective easy-to-use methods to connect lovingly with their child. They also offer excellent courses and material for a reasonable fee. I have taken several ones and can whole-heartedly recommend them. Patty Wipfler, the founder, also just published a book “Listen” which summarises the key Parenting By Connection principles.
- Aware Parenting, Aletha Solter: The website may not look very inviting, but it is full of gems!
- Authentic Parenting, Naomi Aldort: Naomi also has numerous CDs worth listening to.
- Empathic Parenting: A lovely blog by a loving parent and soul.
- Respectful Parenting: Another lovely blog.
Babies & Young Toddlers
- Listen by Patty Wipfler (founder of HandInHand) and Tosha Schore
- The Baby Book by William Sears, M.D., and Martha Sears, R.N.
- The Aware Baby by Aletha J. Solter, Ph.D.
- Trauma-proofing Your Kids: A Parent’s Guide for Instilling Confidence, Joy and Resilience by Peter A. Levine and Maggie Kline
- Infant Massage: A Handbook for Loving Parents by Vimala Schneider McCLure
- The No-Cry Nap Solution by Elizabeth Pantley
- The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley
- Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D.
Toddlers and Older
- Between Parent and Child by Dr. Haim G. Ginott
- How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
- Trauma-proofing Your Kids by Peter A. Levine and Maggie Kline
- The Whole-Brain Child by Dr. Daniel Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson, PhD
- Kids, Parents and Power Struggles by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
- P.E.T. Parent Effectiveness Training. The proven Program for Raising Responsible Children by Dr. Thomas Gorden (Nobel Peace Prize Nominee)
Books recommended by our Community
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- Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn
- The Myth of the Spoiled Child by Alfie Kohn
- No Drama Discipline by Dr. Daniel Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson, PhD
- Parenting from the Inside Out by Dr. Daniel Siegel & Mary Hartzell
- The Mindful Parent by Charlotte Peterson, PhD
- Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman, PhD & Joan Declaire
- Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting by Dr. Laura Markham
- The Explosive Child by Ross W Greene, PhDMindful
- Discipline by Shauna L Shapiro, PhD & Chris White, MD
- The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Tsabary
I have a particular affinity to the relational and dialogical aspects of coaching. Here some of my favourite readings in that space.
Introductory books to coaching
- Coaching skills the definitive guide to being a coach – by Jenny Rogers. An easy read, introducing what coaching is and its most fundamental underlying principles.
- Coaching Understood: A Pragmatic Inquiry into the Coaching Process – by Elaine Cox. Another easy read, highlighting the key skills & coaching tools every good coach should have.
- Coaching presence: Building consciousness and awareness in coaching interventions – by Maria Iliffe-Wood. A beautiful book on the role the coach’s presence plays in coaching, and how awareness is truly everything.
- The fertile void: Gestalt coaching at work – by John Leary-Joyce. A beautiful introduction to using Gestalt principles in coaching. I can also highly recommend any of John’s classes at the AoEC.
For a deeper dive
- Co-active coaching toolkit – holds a wealth of templates and samples of exercises and coaching questions.
- Any course by Chris Johnston on Wellbeing and Motivational Interviewing. A wonderful man with a wealth of experience, knowledge and a great talent at explaining the complex.
- Coaching behind bars: Facing challenges and creating hope in a woman’s prison – by Clare McGregor. An absolutely fascinating and heart-warming read about how coaching can truly change people’s lives.
- The coach’s casebook: Mastering the 12 traits that trap us – by Geoff Watts and Kim Morgan
On the dialogical nature of coaching:
On Theoretical Models
I love reading thought-provoking material and listening to independent thinkers, who dare to express out loud what many of us are thinking. Here some of my favourite.
The world of Human resources
- Nine lies about work: A freethinking leader’s guide to the real world – by Marcus Buckingham and Ashley Goodall. A must read for every leader and HR professional. No surprises, at least not for me, but confirmation it’s about time to rethink our HR models!
On Picture Books
I love picture books! I love how text and illustrations mesh together to tell a story. I love that, in just about 500-600 words, you can create a complete plot, full of intrigue and emotion. They are a great read for both children and adults, as far as I’m concerned! 🙂 Here are some of my favourite picture books.
Picture books by Mo Willems
- All Elephant & Piggie books. Each one of the books in this series is a gem. My daughter is now 10 and we still read them and laugh out loud!
- That is not a good idea. This book is humorous, extremely witty and comes with a surprise ending.
- The pigeon wants a puppy. The Pigeon series is another genius set of books. This one is one of our favourites.