Your weekly poem: The Peace of Wild Things

Your weekly poem: The Peace of Wild Things

🌿 A poem a day keeps the blues away… 

THE PEACE OF WILD THINGS—or how to be at peace and free in the world 🌿

🌻

When despair grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting for their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.

🌻

— Wendell Berry (August 5, 1934 – August 31, 2026)

Wendell Berry

🪴 Berry passed away just three days ago, a few weeks after his 92nd birthday.

THE PEACE OF WILD THINGS is probably one of his most famous poems and one of my favourites. But he was much more than just a poet. He was a novelist, an environmentalist, a small farmer who maintained his own farm for over 40 years, and an activist. He mistrusted technology and “big business”; in fact he’s said to have ploughed his fields behind Belgian draft horses, and written mostly in pencil and without electric light… He stood for values steeped in the respect of nature and his fellow human beings.

In 1968, he delivered “A Statement Against the War in Vietnam” where he said:

We seek to preserve peace by fighting a war, or to advance freedom by subsidizing dictatorships, or to ‘win the hearts and minds of the people’ by poisoning their crops and burning their villages and confining them in concentration camps; we seek to uphold the ‘truth’ of our cause with lies, or to answer conscientious dissent with threats and slurs and intimidations…. I have come to the realization that I can no longer imagine a war that I would believe to be either useful or necessary. I would be against any war.

 His words ring just as true today as they did back then.

🪴 Berry was a master of saying a very great deal with very few words.

He starts his poem sharing a very common human feeling—one philosophers, theologians, existentialists, novelists, psychologists have been mulling over for centuries: despair.

🌱 When despair grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,”

I’m a light sleeper myself—waking up a gazillion times disturbed by inadequate temperatures, bathroom breaks, the sound of rain or partying teens. But Berry talks about a different kind of waking. The kind fed by our fears, anxieties, and worries about ourselves and those we care about: our parents, partners, children, friends, colleagues, employees we lead, clients we support…. But also our job titles, the roles we carry, the games we play, the masks we wear…

Yet Berry doesn’t let us linger too long in that despair. Instead, he sweeps us toward places where we can take solace in nature’s peaceful and replenishing self.

🌱 I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.

Berry is said to have had a writing cabin near a river on his farm, so it could very well be that he describes an actual place of escape he had—lucky man.

When I read his words, I imagine myself in a woodland, lying near a body of water, tall plants rustling with the wind, dragonflies passing by, birds and frogs going about their day. The sun on my skin, the breeze through my hair, and me: resting, eyes closed, cradled in nature’s arms. Quiet.

🌱 I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief.

This is one of my favourite lines in the poem. The wildlife around me invites me in, into the peace of their existence. How can they be peaceful? Because they live in the now, not in yesterday or tomorrow. Perls, founder of Gestalt therapy, said that anxiety exists in the gap between now and later. The wild things don’t burden their lives with thoughts about what might, could, or should be—they only live in the now.

🌱 I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting for their light.

What a beautiful image. Be still, my soul. As still as the water. Alive, present, giving life to others, yet unstirred by turmoil or the unpredictability of the next moment.

And the stars—always present, always there, even when invisible to the eye, ready to be seen and discovered when the conditions are right at nightfall. So it is with our own life—like the stars, waiting for their light to unfold itself—in the Kairos of time, the moment when everything aligns.

🌱 For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.

This is my other favourite line. Berry was a deeply religious man, and so the word grace for him is a word that symbolizes an unearned gift freely given by a loving God.

We don’t have to share Berry’s beliefs to allow ourselves to bask in the beauty of nature and its peaceful existence: In the grace of what’s been gifted to us freely, no strings attached. In the grace of what it means to be alive and part of a vast universe.

And in that moment, I am free—free of anxiety, of worry, of expectations, of anticipation, of unfulfilled promises and the promise of unfulfilled dreams.

I am free because, in that moment, I am who I am.

📌 When was the last time you too rested in the grace of the world and felt free?
What would it take to go where the wild things are, and come into peace?

 

🌱 Feel free to reach out if you’d like to explore what that kind of freedom might look like for you. I’m only one DM away—and the first conversation is always free.

🦋 Happy Sunday everyone! 🦋

With love,

Dina 🫶🏽

 

PS: As always, all em dashes are my own 😉.

PPS: Hi, I’m Dina—an executive and transition coach. And if you’re wondering whether how you are living your life today is how you want to spend the next ten to fifteen years of your career, let’s chat. 🤗

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        • This week’s song is INTO THE MYSTIC by Van Morrison

        Your weekly poem: THE WAY IT IS

        Your weekly poem: THE WAY IT IS

        🌿 A poem a day keeps the blues away… 

        THE WAY IT IS

        or our life’s thread…

        🌻 There’s a thread you follow. It goes among
        things that change. But it doesn’t change.
        People wonder about what you are pursuing.
        You have to explain about the thread.
        But it is hard for others to see.
        While you hold it you can’t get lost.
        Tragedies happen; people get hurt
        or die; and you suffer and get old.
        Nothing you do can stop time’s unfolding.
        You don’t ever let go of the thread.🌻

        — William Stafford, from Ask Me: 100 Essential Poems, 2014

        🪴 I heard about this poem on the Association for Coaching’s newest podcast on “Coaching Men” hosted by the wonderful Rob Lawrence (you can find the link to the podcast in the “Resources” section below). His guest, Will Johnson, is as big a fan of poetry as I am and referenced it, so I got curious.

        There’s a thread you follow. It goes among
        things that change. But it doesn’t change.

        🌱 It’s a faithful thread.
        I imagine the thread to be fine, sometimes fragile, yet sturdy.
        It’s faithful and reliable; for no matter the circumstances, no matter the landscapes it crosses, no matter the seasons, “it doesn’t change”

        🌱 It’s a guiding thread.
        It’s a thread I follow. It shows me the way, guides my steps, informs my decisions. And because it’s faithful no matter the circumstances, I know it can show me the way *in* as well as the way *out* when I need it.

        People wonder about what you are pursuing.
        You have to explain about the thread. 
        But it is hard for others to see.

        🌱 It’s a personal thread, unique to me just as I am unique to the world.

        People may not always understand my reasons, the paths I choose, the decisions I make—they do not see what I see, because my path is not their path—and that’s OK.

        While you hold it you can’t get lost.
        Tragedies happen; people get hurt
        or die; and you suffer and get old.

        🌱 Its promise of guiding us comes with a pre-condition: “Hold it”!
        And if we’re weathering a storm—be it in our surrounding (external) or within us, the tighter that grip needs to be.

        Nothing you do can stop time’s unfolding.

        🌱 Doris Day’s “Que sera sera” comes to mind. There’s only so much in life we can control, predict, anticipate. There’s only so much risk management one can do. Life is made of complex intricacies; things we never anticipated; reactions we could have never predicted; connections we could have never foreseen; events that connect in ways that astound us…

        So the only thing left for us to do is:

        **You don’t ever let go of the thread.**

        📌 What thread do you recognize in your life?

        Are you holding it right now?
        How close to the thread are you walking? Is it even in sight?
        Was there a time when you let go of it?

        🦋 Happy weekend everyone! 🦋

        With love,
        Dina 🫶🏽

        Shnaider winning quarter final at Roland Garros 2026

        Image of Shnaider landing that final strike that won her the quarter final against Sabalenka—taken at Place de la Concorde during my stay in Paris this week. An unexpected result, and I’m guessing a certain “thread” had something to do with it…

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        Your weekly poem: ON CHILDREN & PARENTING

        Your weekly poem: ON CHILDREN & PARENTING

        🌿 A poem a day keeps the blues away… 

        ON CHILDREN & PARENTING

        🌻 Your children are not your children.
        They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
        They come through you but not from you,
        And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

        You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
        For they have their own thoughts.
        You may house their bodies but not their souls,
        For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
        You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
        For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
        You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
        The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
        Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
        For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable. 🌻

        — Kahlil Gibran (1883-1931), from The Prophet

        🪴 Last Sunday was Mother’s day. In my household, it tends to be a day like any other, which I don’t mind. In fact, the two people who wished me Happy Mother’s Day “proactively” were my friends Andy, Maryam, & my mum’s dentist, who had kindly offered to do a check-up on his day off after her operation…

        🪴 As I was reflecting on parenthood, I found myself drawn back to Gibran’s words—a wise reminder of what it means to be entrusted with a life.

        I love being a mum to my wonderful 16-year-old. It’s the most important and precious role I’ll ever get to play, and I’m immensely grateful for it—all the more so because I’m well aware that there are countless people who would love to be a parent but can’t. I was almost one of them… until I wasn’t.

        🪴 Reflecting on what it means to be a parent also reminded me of all the important parental figures I had growing up. People I knew I could rely on, and who were always there for me, especially when my parents couldn’t. Sometimes without a family of their own, they became my parent and I their child all the same—not by blood, but by extension, by choice, through love. These wonderful souls also deserve to be celebrated!

        🪴 I also believe in celebrating our children—every day! For the person they are the moment they’re born. For the person they become as they grow, learn, and explore. For every step they take, every fall they make, and as they stand up again.

        I celebrate my daughter for the fresh perspective she brings—those youth-tainted glasses she wears that remind me of a time that was and of all that can be. The joy and pain of every first. The discovery of life’s promises. The carving of her own path into the world.

        It’s an enormous privilege to witness a child’s journey—whether they are our own or not.

        🎉 Today, I celebrate you and all your loved ones! 🎉 

        🦋 Happy parent day ! Happy children day ! Happy Friday everyone! 🦋

        With love,

        Dina 🫶🏽

        Image: My husband and I in Hawaii, 2012, renewing our vows a year and a half after our daughter was born.

        Resources:

        • In celebration of YOU and all your loved ones, this week’s song is CELEBRATION by Kool & The Gang

        Your weekly poem: WHY I WAKE EARLY

        Your weekly poem: WHY I WAKE EARLY

        🌿 A poem a day keeps the blues away… 

        WHY I WAKE EARLY

        🌻 Hello, sun in my face.
        Hello, you who make the morning
        and spread it over the fields
        and into the faces of the tulips
        and the nodding morning glories,
        and into the windows of, even, the
        miserable and crotchety–

        best preacher that ever was,
        dear star, that just happens
        to be where you are in the universe
        to keep us from ever-darkness,
        to ease us with warm touching,
        to hold us in the great hands of light–
        good morning, good morning, good morning.

        Watch, now, how I start the day
        in happiness, in kindness. 🌻

        — Mary Oliver
        (published in “Devotions: The Selected Poems of Mary Oliver”)

        🪴 I haven’t posted a poem for a few weeks now. Life has been life, I guess, with its usual ebbs and flows. As I finally sat down to share with you a poem, I picked Mary Oliver’s book and it opened on page 171, revealing WHY I WAKE EARLY.

        🪴 I think any analysis of Oliver’s words would defeat the whole purpose of this simple but powerful poem. It’s not just an ode to the sun, but an ode to our planet and the beauty that surrounds us. And it’s meant to be experienced rather than analysed.

        🎂 I find it interesting that this is the poem that revealed itself to me today (Friday 08 May), the same day we celebrate Sir David Attenborough’s 100th birthday: someone who has dedicated his life to sharing the wonders of our beautiful planet with millions of viewers in a most iconic way. 

        📌 So, instead of a question, I invite you to wake up early tomorrow and experience the wonder that is “morning” through all your senses.

        🎂 Happy 100th Birthday Sir David Attenborough 🎂

        🦋 Happy Friday everyone! 🦋

        🌹 And Happy Mother’s day (on Sunday)! 🌹

        With love,

        Dina 🫶🏽

        Resources:

        • This week’s song is What A Wonderful World, cover by Sir David Attenborough—an ode to our planet

        Your weekly poem: ALONE—or no man’s an island?

        Your weekly poem: ALONE—or no man’s an island?

        🌿 A poem a day keeps the blues away… 

        On this blessed Good Friday, Maya Angelou’s poem ALONE came to mind.

        ALONE

        🌻 Alone
        Lying, thinking
        Last night
        How to find my soul a home
        Where water is not thirsty
        And bread loaf is not stone
        I came up with one thing
        And I don’t believe I’m wrong
        That nobody,
        But nobody
        Can make it out here alone.

        Alone, all alone
        Nobody, but nobody
        Can make it out here alone.

        There are some millionaires
        With money they can’t use
        Their wives run round like banshees
        Their children sing the blues
        They’ve got expensive doctors
        To cure their hearts of stone.
        But nobody
        No, nobody
        Can make it out here alone.

        Alone, all alone
        Nobody, but nobody
        Can make it out here alone.

        Now if you listen closely
        I’ll tell you what I know
        Storm clouds are gathering
        The wind is gonna blow
        The race of man is suffering
        And I can hear the moan,
        ‘Cause nobody,
        But nobody
        Can make it out here alone.

        Alone, all alone
        Nobody, but nobody
        Can make it out here alone.🌻

        —Maya Angelou

         

        Creative, resourceful, and whole

        🪴 There’s a persistent belief in coaching—not sure where it originated—that clients are creative, resourceful, and whole.

        I always struggled with that mantra, but it took me some time to figure out why.

        It sounds amazing, and it’s one of those mantras we sure as heck want to be true. But the question is, is it?

        Creativity and resourcefulness sit on a continuum—some have it more than others. But I do believe that we all carry a seed of both. How that seed develops, and how it shows up in action, will greatly vary…

        Wholeness, on the other hand, is rooted in this modern-day thinking that we can be anything we want to be, and do anything we want to do, all on our own, if we only put our mind to it. Bollocks. No man is an island. And no talents are infinite.

        Relational coaching practices try to tone this idea down by acknowledging the importance of the coach-client relationship, and the coach’s use-of-self as an instrument of change. And yet, we still hold on to the idea of “wholeness” as an individual trait, rather than a communal one.

        Why are we so afraid to admit that each one of us has limits?
        That no one can be everything to everyone.
        That my talents have limits.
        My creativity has limits.
        My resourcefulness has limits.
        My knowledge has limits.
        My resilience has limits.

        And once we accept that—that we, human beings, have limits—we start to understand that we can only become WHOLE with one another.

        “No human being is ‘whole’ in and of itself”

        🪴 And I’m not the first one to propose such a sacrilegious hypothesis. I attended a brilliant webinar on existential analysis by Kate Hammer earlier this year, in which she shared the following quote by existential clinical psychologist, psychotherapist, and close collaborator of Viktor Frankl—Alfried Längle, who said:

        “According to existential analysis no human being is ‘whole’ in and of itself, even if healthy and with all drives satisfied. A human being as a person needs to transcend themselves and to turn to others (people, projects, tasks) in order to achieve existential fulfilment.”

        Imagine my relief when I realised I wasn’t alone in my thinking. Which in itself proves Angelou’s point:

        We need one another. We complement one another. We build on one another. We nurture one another. We protect one another. Fill in the blanks…

        “Alone, all alone
        Nobody, but nobody
        Can make it out here alone.”

        🪴 In today’s world, with the fires blazing across my beloved Middle East, Maya’s words pierce through the silence:

        “Storm clouds are gathering
        The wind is gonna blow
        The race of man is suffering
        And I can hear the moan,
        ‘Cause nobody,
        But nobody
        Can make it out here alone.”

        Man is no island. Mankind is a highly sophisticated root system—similar to the mycorrhizal network—a Wood Wide Web—or in our case, a Soul Wide Web: connected, woven like a tapestry. Because when it tears somewhere, everyone hurts…

        📌 Your turn… 

        • What do you know to be your limits?
        • Who completes you? Go and be with them!
        • What completes you? Go and do it!

        🦋 A blessed Good Friday everyone! 🦋

        With love,

        Dina 🫶🏽

         

        PS : all em dashes are my own ;).

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        • This week’s song is The Power of Love, cover by Josh Krajcik

        Let go, and let God

        Let go, and let God

        It’s been four months since my last post. Life somehow took over, I guess, releasing an avalanche of events and emotions, which are still unfolding.
        At first, I thought I would write to you about what it is that’s been keeping me busy. But then I thought: each one of us is carrying their own cross. Why should my current circumstances be any heavier or more “special” than yours. So, instead of focusing on the events that have been keeping me away from you and writing, I decided to focus on the message life has been trying to teach me instead: Let go, and let God.

        The messy truth

        I like to think of myself as a pious person, whose faith in a loving God is at the center of her life. But I have to concede that this is more of an aspiration. A wishful state. Reality is much more messy.

        The truth is that I’ve spent most of my life relying on my own understanding of things. Planning. Organising. Trying hard to be and stay in control of circumstances around me. And the older I get, the more I realise just how “out of control” life is, and the harder I strive to “be in control”.

        The messy truth is that, while I long for a strong faith, anchored in a personal relationship with God, I’m far from either. Though I keep trying. 

        The unpredictable scares me.

        I’m scared of getting hurt.
        Falling sick.
        Pain.
        Being at the mercy of medical practitioners, politicians, regulators, legislators.
        The uncertainty of my decisions and their repercussions paralyse me at times. After all, how can I know for sure what the best course of action is?

        There have been times in my life where I knew exactly what I needed to do. Not an ounce of a doubt in me.
        Now is not one of those times. 

        I so long to be able to relax.
        Let go of all responsibilities.
        Let go of the load, weighing on my soul’s beaten shoulders.
        Let someone else take the reins for a change.

        And the irony is that this is exactly what Jesus told us He would do for us:

        “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”
        (Matthew 11: 28, NIV)

        A beautiful flowing colorful abstract painting and the words of Matthew 11:28-30. Bible verse to comfort the soul.
        Art and design by Sharon Cummings

        Life’s teaching moments

        Every experience, every challenge I have been facing this far, has been trying to teach me the same lesson, over-and-over.

        Let go, and let God.

        Years back, when I injured my back, my doctor told me that if I had let myself fall, I wouldn’t have hurt as much. Holding on made my fall worse.

        My current joints, heel and hip pain are caused, among other things, by weak and tense muscles that are not letting go.

        What is it that I am so desperate to hold on to?

        Safety?
        Security?
        Protection?
        Perfection?
        A life without loss or pain?

        I seem to be stuck in the hurts of the past, and the hopes and fears of a distant future; when my salvation lies in the present moment of what is. Not what was. Not what can or will be. What is. 

        I am now due for a dental surgery, where I am at the mercy of the surgeon operating on me.
        I have no control over the risks, and I was told there are a few.
        I have no control over how well my body may or may not be able to heal.
        I have no control over the pain that may ensue, and the time I will need to recover.

        I wished I knew how to let myself fall – knowing that God’s net is there to catch me.

        In the not so distant past

        There used to be a time when I could do that – let go of all worries, and just
        know that all will be well.

        A time where my faith and trust in God was
        unwavering.

        That was also the time when I talked to Him every day,
        like one talks to a long-time friend,
        a loving Father,
        and He spoke back.

        I don’t do that anymore, talking to him,
        or at least not as often,
        and I wonder why…

        God’s messengers

        As I wrestle with these thoughts, God sent me two messengers.

        A., a catholic nun.
        God had sent her my way, six years ago, during one of my darkest hours, as I grappled with burnout.
        A week ago, she sent an e-mail about an upcoming Silent Retreat she is organising. So I jumped on the opportunity. In fact, I am on my way there right now as I write this post, hoping that within that communal silent space, I find the courage to talk to Him again and hear His voice. 

        B., my refugee friend.
        She has been struggling with financial and health issues for some time. When I asked her if I can help her financially in any way, she said:

        Oh no, I have all I need! Some people complain that they don’t have enough money, or not good health. But how can I complain when I know that everything that comes my way comes from the hands of God? I am happy and content with whatever He hands me, and I trust His will and His gifts. I know He is there watching over me, making sure I have what I need one day at a time.

        Her faith both shamed and inspired me.

        Let go, and let God

        God wants to teach me to rely on Him. Not myself. Not man. Him.

        He’s telling me that all my previous accomplishments, the troubles I got out of, is not because I did it – but because He saw me through it. And, Lord knows, I’ve put myself in some pretty big messes in the past. But His grace saw me through it – unscathed. Why would He forsake me now?

        He wants me to trust in His will for me. Trust that He has my best spiritual interest in mind. Trust that, even if something goes wrong with my upcoming operation, He is a faithful God and He will see me through. Just like he did in the past.

        He’s teaching me to trust to …

        … Let go, and let God.

        EPILOGUE

        I am now sitting in the train, on my way back home from the Silent Retreat.
        I feel gifted and carried.
        And I feel the need to share with you some of what I was gifted with.

        Here is what I wrote (unedited) after my first meditation time in the morning:

        I am still and at peace inside.
        I bask in the warmth of His embrace and comfort.
        I feel calm for I know He has been guiding me through past events,
        for whatever lies ahead of me,
        however scary it may see,
        will bring me goodness.

        I rely on His will for me;
        His plan for me;
        not mine.
        There is also a sense of gratitude and comfort in me
        to be surrounded by others who share in the love of Jesus,
        and long for His voice and presence, as I do.
        Their community,
        even if in silence,
        consoles my soul and
        fills it with peace.

        Landscape picture over the ocean and cliffs with verses 1-2 of Psalm 18

        Later on, we meditated on Psalm 18, and I chose the following verses to meditate on:

        I love you, Lord, my strength.
        The Lord is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer;
        my God, my strength, in whom I will trust;
        my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.”
        (Psalm 18, 1-2, NIV)

        Ocean picture from under water with verse 16 from Psalm 18

        And later on, as we were closing the day,  I meditated on the verse:

        He reached down from on high and took hold of me (…)
        You, Lord, keep my lamp burning;
        my God turns my darkness into light.
        (Psalm 18, 16; 28, NIV)

        At peace

        I just sat there, with those Psalm words, in silence, with God.
        And I could feel Him, carrying me
        like a Father carries His daughter.
        I felt Him around me – embracing me.
        And tears started flowing.
        Tears of joy, and relief,
        knowing He is here, and that
        He loves me. 

        I can finally let go, and let God take the reins of my life.

        I no longer feel the need to be in control, for He is. 

        An abstract blue background with verses 28-29 from Psalm 18

        POST-EPILOGUE

        I felt the need to close the loop. End the story so to speak. It’s a happy ending, although not without its set of challenges, pain and doubts.

        God was faithful and supported me through my operation, and offered relief when I was most in pain. He was also faithful after the operation as I was recovering. But then came an infection, and my doubts and fears re-surfaced.

        Over the years, in moments when I needed to hear God’s voice – when I needed an answer – I would go knocking at His door.
        How you ask?
        I would talk to Him, share with him my worry – doubts – question – fear – and ask him for guidance.
        How does He guide me?
        Through His word.
        The Bible.
        After I’ve opened my heart to Him, I would open my Bible App, close my eyes and click with my finger there where my spirit guides me:
        a Bible Chapter.
        a Verse.

        On that day, when the infection was spreading and pain started to re-surface, that’s exactly what I did.
        And His Spirit guided me to Tobit 5:13.
        Tobit had been blinded and frustrated, if not somewhat bitter, over his fate. When the Angel of God came into his home one day, greeting him saying “May gladness be always with you” – Tobit answers: “What kind of gladness will be for me, since I sit in darkness and do not see the light of heaven?” And so the Angel responds to him with verse 13:

        “Be steadfast in soul. Your cure from God is near.”
        (Tobit 5:13, KJV)

        And so it was. Not just for Tobit. Also for me.

        Mountaneous landscape with a woman standing at one edge and the inscription of Proverbs 3: 5-6

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